I am not in charge of my children's actions

We are not in charge of who our children fall in love with. We are also not in charge of what our children do to/with their bodies (tattoos, piercings, lack of exercise, overeating, risk taking, etc). In fact, come to think of it, we are not in charge of our adult children at all. So much of the conflict, tension, resentment and estrangement between parents and children is caused by us parents negatively judging the actions of our kids. I am making a concerted effort to avoid doing that, by accepting the actions of my kids, whether or not I approve of them. How about you?