Finding goodness when others are criticizing

A man I talked with yesterday told me all about his selfish and mean jerk of a roommate who is his girlfriend's sister's fiance, and how everyone in the family hates him. I said this is a great opportunity for him to see the good in the man, & work hard to find out why his girlfriend's sister fell in love with him, & what good she sees in him. He said he would! Cool! Difference made. Who are you judging negatively, instead of searching for their goodness?