It all starts with Self-Love

If I don’t love and value myself, then I become dependent on others for that, which leads to major problems, because if I need someone’s love to be whole, then if they leave or threaten to leave, I am incomplete/damaged, causing me to force the other person to keep loving me. So for my own mental health, I need to love and value myself. That allows me to accept the love from others as a bonus, rather than a need.

Creating joy even when doing crappy tasks

I can create joy in the most miserable of tasks. If I have committed to a task, or an objective that I am committed to requires that I do a yucky task to accomplish the larger goal, then I am going to do the task. The only question is whether I am going to do it with enthusiasm/joy or reluctance/negativity. I am choosing enthusiasm and joy. What task are you hating, that you could decide to be joyful about?

Peace and Happiness

What robs us of our peace and happiness are the little things: Criticism, traffic, annoying people, politics at work, getting rained on, & rental car counters that close early (yes this happened to me tonight). But we decide how we view the situation and how we respond. I found National still open with cars, because I was able to stay calm and look for plan B. What small things are you allowing to ruin your peace and happiness?

Help from my network

You never know who can help you meet your objectives. I met with a guy today about one of my objectives, and found out he can help me a lot with my other main objective. Who are you going to add to your network today?

Intuition according to Einstein

Building on yesterday's post: “The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.” ~Albert Einstein~

Intuition

I have intuition. And I know how to use it. So do you. We all do. But intuitive information only comes out when I take at least 15-20 minutes to calm my hyperactive analytical brain, so my intuition can whisper to me & I will be able to hear it. Sit in silence for 20 minutes while focussing on breathing deeply and you will be amazed at what comes to you. Try it, you like it. I promise.

Disappointment and Happiness

Sometimes life is disappointing. In those situations, I have a choice: Make changes and take my life in a new direction. Or find a way to notice and celebrate the good things that are happening, while ignoring the bad. My circumstances do not need to dictate whether or not I am happy. I am in charge of my happiness.

Parenting Challenges

I finally figured it out… The reason why parenting is so challenging is because we have to watch our kids overcome the issues that they inherited from us. I gave our kids so many great things. And I also gave them ridiculously high self-standards, perfectionism, and workaholism. And now I get to watch them overcome those issues, just like I had to overcome them.

Enthusiasm Is Inspiring

My math club geniuses (geek squad) continue to blow me away with how excited they are about math. There is nothing more inspiring that a group of kids hungry to learn something. It is a model that we adults can follow. When was the last time you jumped for joy or shouted with glee about something new that you learned? Spend the next hour in 4 year old mode. You will be amazed.

Peace: The Art of Allowing and Letting Go

This weekend I realized a great sense of peace from noticing that I am OK with however my life turns out, and that just the act of doing what feels good to me, acting on my dreams and visions for the world, and touching positively the people I come into contact with, is all that I need. The future will be fine no matter what it holds.

I think I might actually be starting to get a sense of what is meant by the Law of Attractions’s “The Art of Allowing” and “The Are of Letting Go”. I don’t need to be stressed about Kachingle's future. Or where I will be in 5 years. It will be what it will be. There is so much freedom and peace in just being my great and contributing self right now, in the moment.

Transforming relationships, at home and at work

What if you based your actions & words in every relationship based only on the benefits/purpose of the relationship, while intentionally ignoring all the things about the other person that annoy, frustrate and bother you?

What if you focused only on the other person’s strengths, gifts, looking past their flaws, to transform a challenging relationship? Got a relationship you want to transform?

Path to Enlightenment

You know you are enlightened when flattery stops making you happy and criticism stops making you defensive.

I am making major progress on this. Are you ready to give up your addiction to compliments and your defensiveness when criticized? I am!

Happiness

I am in completely in charge of my own happiness. I can find joy in anything, if that is my commitment. And I can find problems, issues and negativity in anything, if I allow myself. I choose to find a way to find joy in everything. That sometimes takes some ruthless support from my friends, which I welcome openly. :-) In what area of your life can you shift to creating joy?

Leaders take action no matter what

A leader is someone who takes action towards their goal even when they don’t feel like it or they don’t want to. I am such a leader. What action are you avoiding, which if you took that action would move you closer to one of your goals?

Feedback

The universe is my coach. Everything that happens to me both good and bad is invaluable feedback which, if I stay out of defensiveness and treat it as feedback, will help me to rapidly grow rapidly and to adjust my actions so that I achieve all that I intend to achieve, both personally and professionally.

Resentment

Resentment is like eating rat poison and then waiting for the other person to die. Who are you resenting and how much longer will you continue to eat the poison?

The power of declaration

Sometimes the only thing that keeps me working on a future that almost no one else sees yet is my own ability to declare how the future is going to be, and then living into that future, and convincing other people to live into that future as well.