Honey or Vinegar?

Grandma always said that "you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar". Yet we humans so often put out vinegar instead of honey, especially to those we love: Yelling, ignoring, fleeing, lying, withholding, etc. We know we hate vinegar, yet we serve it to our friends, family and colleagues. Who can you start giving honey to instead of vinegar? Who can you give love to right now, even if they are giving you grief?