Judgment kills love and respect

In many conversations with myself or another, I start judging myself or the other person negatively. That causes resentment. The resentment then replaces the respect or love that I have for that person (or myself). Since judgment leads to loss of love/respect, I need to notice the judgment early and shift back to loving and respecting them (or myself) , even if I am not agreeing with them (or myself) in the moment.