Patience and Discipline

Patience: Waiting for the right moment. Discipline: Sticking to the plan no matter what. When I stop doing either of these, bad things happen. And when I live my live based on these two principles, miracles happen.

What if love is all there is?

“Love is the opening door. Love is what we came here for.” Lesley Duncan for Elton John, 1976. What if that is true? What if that is what we came here for?

What if that is all that there is? What if all the other stuff (ego, fear, selfishness, manipulation, defensiveness, shutting down, running away, attacks, resentment, pretense, lying, frustration, impatience, etc) are just distractions and detours from the main road we are supposed to be on, which is the road to love: Love of ourselves, and Love of each other. No matter what.

What if Love is all there is? If that was true, how would it change the way you live your life?

Taking the high road

Today’s thought: When I am in conflict in a relationship (at home or at work), why is it that I am always the one that reaches out and apologizes, or offers to do something for them, or expresses my love to them, or finds a way to meet their need/request, or asks them how I can help? Because I can and I choose to.

Who are you in conflict with right now that you could reach out to?

Intentions equal results

Today’s thought: Intentions do equal Results. Yesterday I watched my son stand outside in the cold for hours doing anything and everything to find us a pair of tickets for the price we were willing to pay. He talked to scalpers. He held up a sign. He checked the ticket counter frequently. He chased down rumors of tickets. He asked everybody that walked by. He had me go on my laptop and keep trying to buy tickets. And in the end, some last minute tickets did go on sale, he found out about it right away, got to the front of the crowd, and got us the tickets!!! So we got to see what might be the last Bruce Springsteen/E Street Band concert ever! (the tour ended with last night’s show in Buffalo)

Having a strong intention shifts my actions and dramatically increases the odds of success. What are your intentions?

Friendship at its best

The best friendships are the ones that are based on each person supporting the other in achieving their goals and dreams, even if that leads to seeing less of eachother.

One person can transform a relationship

One person can transform a relationship. I have done it and I have seen it done. It starts and ends with loving and respecting the other person no matter what they do to you. It is pretty hard for someone to continue hating and mistreating you when you always love and honor them and treat them well no matter how badly they are behaving. Pretty soon, if one person comes from love no matter what, the relationship shifts from a downward spiral to an upward spiral.

What is important to me?

To see what matters to me, I only need to watch where I spend my time and energy. Where do you spend your time and energy? What is important to you?